Therapy for Anxiety & Stress
In-person in Chico, CA and online across CA & OR
The One Who Holds It All Together
You are the first person people turn to when things fall apart. For years, you have been the steady hand, the clear head, the reliable one. You take pride in navigating the high-stakes, the complex, and the heavy. This strength has built your career, supported your family, and made you the “anchor” for everyone in your orbit.
You have mastered the art of being “fine” so that everyone else can be safe.
The Invisible Cost
But lately, the role that used to energize you has started to feel like a weight. The anchor that once kept you steady has begun to pull you under. When your identity is built entirely on what you do, there is often no room left for who you actually are.
Anxiety for the “doer” looks different. It rarely looks like panic; it looks like a “fix-it” mode that won’t turn off. It is high-resolution armor built to stay effective. But when that armor becomes too heavy, you might notice that in the stillness you feel flooded, isolated, or unable to return to yourself
The Inside-Out Shift
We don’t aim to take away your strength; we work to make it sustainable. I facilitate a process where we discover how to build more flexibility—learning when to choose your strength, and when to let others in.
Using EMDR, AEDP, and experiential sandtray, we help your nervous system digest the 'old stuff' creating these patterns of anxiety. We help you re-experience yourself in the present, so you can feel what it’s like to do differently, and finally put words to experiences that have been wordless.
What to Expect
The goal is a return to vitality, not just better endurance. As we work, the "static" of constant hypervigilance begins to clear. You’ll find you can inhabit quiet moments without fear, show up for your loved ones with genuine presence, and finally put down the weight of being everyone’s anchor.
You are allowed to be steady and supported at the same time.
You’ve spent enough time watching your life from the ceiling, performing a version of "fine" that no longer fits. It is time to move beyond the cycle of endurance and into a life that is actually yours to inhabit.